How long will #Lockdown last? Another week? Month? Longer? Good question. Nobody really knows.
What comes next? Good Question. Nobody knows.
Might this lockdown be followed by a period of non-lockdown, before lockdown is enacted again? Good question. It’s possible, but nobody knows.
Is the virus real? Or is something else killing people? Good question. Some ‘body’ somewhere probably knows. The rest of us, well, nobody really knows.
Will life go back to how it was? Good question. Unlikely. But nobody really knows.
Should life go back to how it was? Another good question, but each individual’s answer is just going to be an opinion, based on inputs received from external sources. So should we pay much attention to it? I’ll leave that one to you to decide. But guess what, nobody really knows.
No one has invented a time machine to catapult us into the future, yet, so nobody knows what’s coming up. Despite that fact, ask yourself how much time and mental real estate has been spent in the past four weeks in rumination on the future… Added up across the globe the number of minutes would boggle the mind.
So what the heck do we know?
We know this:
The past is a concept carried in our minds and photographs, which we remember as we remember it, not necessarily how it actually was. We remember the bad stuff more than the good stuff, because remembering the bad stuff means we know where the danger lies. This keeps us safe, it’s an evolutionary survival trick, but has the potential to wreck our lives, if we let it. How can we trust our memories of the past, if we’ve forgotten a lot of the good things that happened? Or even more devastating; misremembered the bad stuff as worse than it was.
What about the future? The future is also a construct of our minds, a projection of what it may look like based on our current experience of life and the concepts we hold in our memories of how the past unfolded. That projection is also likely to be influenced by what other people have told us of their own predictions, but how can we trust those? Should we trust their sources more than we trust our own untrustworthy sources? Projecting goals and intentions for the future is a smart move, but if we fall into the trap of assuming the future will pan out exactly as we imagine it in this moment, if we spend our lives dreaming of future riches, we set ourselves up for a lifetime of distraction and disappointment. A lifetime of failing to be present in the present.
So if we can’t trust our memories of the past, and we cannot foretell the future, what are we left with?
Answer: The present moment.
It is the closest thing to reality, to the truth that we have. It is all that is.
But what if our present moment is being destroyed by our addiction to, and obsession with, the past story and future projections… Then what do we have?
Nothing but a mess of thinking. An inner lie that cannot be trusted. A total fabrication of our own making. And worse still, a heart blocked by the intellect and thought patterns.
It is the primary error of humanity. Pure programming. A prison of our own making.
And so what comes after Coronavirus? After the incredible global experience that is, and eventually will have been, the Covid-19 freak show?
I’ll tell you what comes next. Whatever we choose. If in fact we choose to choose.
Regardless of your opinion on the ‘Law of Attraction’, we are constantly manifesting, everything in our lives is a manifestation of our beliefs, decisions and actions. Everything. Individually and collectively.
So what do we do? We decide, right here, right now, to let go of any negativity we are holding on to towards the past, to see it all as a messy series of life lessons to be grateful for, nothing more, nothing less. We look back on our entire story and give thanks for it led us to this moment.
I’ll use myself as an example here. My parents got divorced when I was eleven years old, I’ve delved into the story on my blog before so I’m not going to go into it again, but in summary: the sequence of events were not beneficial to my development or happiness. Or at least they weren’t, until quite recently, when I finally reached the point where I could no longer sweep the problems under the carpet and decided to do something about it. What did I do? Well I’ve done a lot, tried a lot, it’s all documented on my blog, but it really just boils down to this:
- Firstly I made a conscious decision to re-frame my past as a beautiful life of experience and illuminating teachings. No longer do I look back on any thing that happened with resentment, anger or bitterness. Why would I? It all led me to this moment, sat here, typing this, with a smile on my face and a glow in my heart that no one can extinguish.
- Secondly, I worked with a skilled practitioner to release the negative emotional energetic frequencies that were trapped inside my physical body. A skill I was so utterly impressed with that I went on to study the method so I could offer it to others. It has become my purpose.
I make it sound easy. It has not been easy, but a large part of that is because I was deploying trial and error as my method to finding the solution to my problems. I never employed a guide. I was too stubborn and too stupid, and as a result I was stuck for years and years going round in circles, repeating the same mistakes over and over again. I needed a guide. A coach. A teacher. Or maybe I didn’t. because here I am, finding my own way, eventually, but my goodness it would saved a lot of time and heart ache.
Okay, so I’m just a kid of divorce who experienced some bullying and got himself trapped in a negative cycle. Trauma, yes, but not that unusual. Many would argue that there’s nothing that traumatic about it, but trauma is a spectrum, and no one can say for sure how an event or upbringing is going to affect a child. Kurt Cobain’s parents got divorced at nine and look at how it affected him, he never got over it.
A trauma is defined as a distressing or disturbing event, or series of events. By that measure it could include anything from being left to cry for hours as a baby, to having an angry or depressed parent, to losing a loved one, or having your heart broken, from failing at school to being mugged at knife point. It could be living with an emotionally manipulative partner, being disabled by an accident, or working towards a dream only to find it dashed at the last minute.
Many people will hear the word trauma and think because nothing ‘serious’ has happened to them that it does not apply. It’s not true. Simply having an unhappy parent whilst growing up can be deeply traumatising for a young child. And so if you’re reading this, and you’re a parent who’s unhappy, it’s probably something worth exploring, for their sake as well as yours.
But what about the people who experience mega trauma? Losing parents? Sexual or physical abuse? Surviving Nazi concentration camps? History is littered with famous achievers who had dark pasts.
Isaac Newton’s father died before he was born, his mother then left him to be raised by his grandparents, by all accounts he did not have a happy childhood.
Oprah Winfrey was sexually abused from the age of ten by several members of her own family, and aged 14 she became pregnant, but lost the child.
Joaquin Phoenix lost his brother to a drug overdose when he was 19, Joaquin went on to have his own substance abuse problems.
Russell Brand has very publicly battled his addictions. Look at him now, married father of two, becoming one of the most internationally known British comedians, commentators, and dare I say it, spiritual teachers.
Tony Robbins’ mother tried to drown him with bleach. His companies now turn over in excess of $6billion a year, he has provided millions of free meals to the poor, and has helped countless attendees of his workshops to turn their lives about.
And there’s Viktor Frankl, the Jewish doctor, neurologist, psychiatrist and author who, against all odds, survived over four years in the unimaginable horror of the Nazi concentration camps, and went on to provide inspiration to millions.
There are more examples of triumph through adversity littered throughout history than I could possibly list or uncover. Madonna and Lady Gaga, both were raped. Charlize Theron witnessed her mother shoot her father when she was 15. Nicole Kidman has been incredibly open about her struggles with infertility. Keep looking and you’ll find more and more.
The further your rubber band gets pulled back into the darkness, the faster you can catapult into the light, if you so choose.
The point is this: Human beings are incredibly adaptable and resilient creatures, just look at how we have adapted to this Covid-19 situation.
“Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you’re gonna get”
The bigger point is this: When life gives you lemons, make Lemonade. We all have things that go ‘wrong’ in our lives. Sometimes at the start. Sometimes in the middle. Sometimes at the end. When the lemons inevitably land in our lap we have a choice:
We can say: “fucking lemons, they’re all bitter and acidic, I didn’t want fucking lemons”, and then watch them rot in our lap.
Or we can say: “fucking lemons! YESSS! Get in! What a result! I can add a little sugar and use these lemons to make refreshing lemonade, I can have a glass for myself, yum, and then I can gift the remaining lemonade to my dehydrated neighbours, so that they may taste this delicious lemonade and enjoy their day a little more” I win, they win, everybody wins!
This is it, it is that simple. If we want to be happy in the present we must look back on the past with nothing but gratitude.
And this is where meditation or prayer comes in. But before I dive into that, we need to address the future again briefly. Once we stop letting the past control us, we should also work to cease attempting to constantly control and map out the future. We should aim to understand that seeking to precisely define the future means we lose our ability to adapt, to find opportunity in the unexpected, and we close off other potentially more fruitful, joyous paths that the universe may present to us. If we demand that there is only one path we must follow, and then that leads to a dead end, where are we then? Stuck.
How do you DECIDE to do these things? “It’s hard!” I hear you wail…
You must take ACTION to change your BELIEFS to the ones described above. Take the DECISION to BELIEVE that the past is something to be thankful for, regardless of the story. And BELIEVE that the future is yours to manifest, but not control. Then take ACTION to lock those beliefs into your subconscious.
That’s a bit messy, let’s condense it into one line.
Decide to take action to change your beliefs.
“But how do I do that?” Read on.
The present moment is all we have. And once we have freed ourselves from the tyranny of our pasts and the hopeless unknowing of our futures, we will be able to fully live that moment. ‘The Power of Now’. This is not new. Many men and women have figured this out through the ages. However, never before has the entire planet pushed the pause button, never before has the entire planet been connected like it is today, never before have we had access to this information at the same time as having the time and space to explore this concept.
It is time for us all to take out our vision boards and write down the utopian future that we want to take shape when the lockdown rules start to ease. The prison of our own making has a prison door, but that door is not locked, you just need to test the handle, open it and step out.
John Lennon once sang:
“You may say I’m a dreamer
But I’m not the only one
I hope someday you’ll join us
And the world will live as one”
I finally understand what he was singing about. He isn’t the only one. There’s a whole army of dreamers, of wizards and witches out there, hiding in plain sight, casting magic spells. Some are celebrities like the late John, but it might be the cook in your kids’ school canteen, or the barista at your favourite coffee place who is always smiling, always chirpy. It is the people who live with unconditional love in their hearts, and freedom in their souls. Hagrid was a wizard just as Harry and Voldemort were.
How do you live with unconditional love in your heart and freedom in your soul? I’ll say it again. Give thanks for the past, and cease trying to control the future, instead decide what it is you want, and then ask for it.
It is important to note: Some of the powerful wizards and witches have gone to the ‘darkside’. The power has gone to their heads, not their hearts. Watch out for them, like Voldemort and Darth Vader they want to take the war to, and destroy the Muggles, they’ll seek to first take out the rebellion, the dreamers. I’m not going to point them out, but when you see a powerful person, simply ask yourself, is that person operating from fear or from love? Trust your gut. If it’s fear, laugh in the face of fear and move on.
The world is full of fear at the moment, open your eyes and ears and you will realise we are engulfed in it. We are in a dangerous place. It is more important than ever to open your eyes and open your heart.
Instead we should look to the Dumbledores, the Yodas and the Gandalfs. They are there, you just have to look for them. I’ve given you one already, but go read the lyrics of Pink Floyd and you’ll soon see the magic. Shakespeare’s pen was a wand. David Gray, the clue was in his first album title (White Ladder). Monty Python – definitely. Ricky Gervais – almost certainly, watch ‘After Life’ or the ‘Invention of Lying’. Jim Carrey? See him in ‘Yes Man’? Powerful wizard that one. Eckhart Tolle blows my mind with his magical words and peaceful demeanor. Have you seen Chris Martin on stage? Pure presence. They are there, look for them.
How do you know who they are? They’re often unconventional. a bit ‘strange’. They talk of love, they talk of freedom and free speech, they give no credit nor time to fear, they are creative, thoughtful, kind, occasionally dark, yet hilarious. Find them, and then DECIDE to BELIEVE in their message, and then DECIDE to take ACTION. Make their message your message. A message of hope, faith, love and humour.
“When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro”
Maybe this will all end tomorrow. Maybe this time next year it will be a mere historical footnote, the butt of jokes between regulars down at the local drinking establishment.
Alternatively, maybe this is just the start of a post-Covid-19 dystopian future that would give George Orwell nightmares. Maybe it’s going to rip the carpet from underneath us, destroy the world economy, bankrupt nations, bankrupt businesses, end capitalism, usher in a new world order, enable the new age of AI to dominate us, reduce us to peasants, destroy families, destroy humanity, plug us into a matrix. If we all collectively succumb to fear this may well happen. We will manifest it with our fear. God forbid.
Or maybe we’re about to witness the greatest period of human history. Maybe we’re about to step into the world that John Lennon imagined. A world where we live as one, in peace and harmony. We have the opportunity to achieve something that we’ve never been able to before. If enough of us place hope, faith, humour, and love in our hearts, we will collectively usher in the most incredible new age.
The spiritual folk advise that we are entering the age of Aquarius. The age of water. What is water? A mass of molecules held loosely together by cohesive bonds, fluid, flowing, held together but not rigid. There is no life without water. Gaia, Mother Earth, more water than she is soil, she is waiting for us to make our move. What do we want? What direction are we setting our ship for? What will we collectively manifest? Will be bond together or will we freeze in fear and drown? Wake up. Step up. Your planet needs you. Your people need you. Your family need you. You need you. Open your heart.
Take your power back, take the power away from the past and the future, give up control of what we cannot control, practice forgiveness, practice gratitude, and then ask for the future you want to see. Demand it in meditation or prayer. Although I’m not religious, these are the teachings of Jesus Christ, but they’re also the teachings of the powerful dreamers; Shakespeare, the Buddha; Bill Hicks, Kurt Cobain, John Lennon, Tony Robbins and Joe Dispenza; Ricky Gervais and JK Rowling; and don’t forget those rascal Monty Python lads.
Love will always conquer fear if we remain open to love. That is all we have to do. Stay open to love and laugh in the face of fear. When we run from what is scary we let the fear win. We let the devil win. Face it down. Laugh at it. Choose love. Choose life. And don’t forget to smile.
And then meditate on that decision. Close your eyes and repeat the following over and over again.
I give thanks for everything that came before
I choose love now
I laugh in the face of fear
I am love
We are love
Together we will build a loving new Earth
I leave you with the words of the late, but timelessly wonderful Bill Hicks:
“The world is like a ride in an amusement park, and when you choose to go on it you think it’s real because that’s how powerful our minds are. The ride goes up and down, around and around, it has thrills and chills, and it’s very brightly colored, and it’s very loud, and it’s fun for a while. Many people have been on the ride a long time, and they begin to wonder, “Hey, is this real, or is this just a ride?” And other people have remembered, and they come back to us and say, “Hey, don’t worry; don’t be afraid, ever, because this is just a ride.” And we … kill those people. “Shut him up! I’ve got a lot invested in this ride, shut him up! Look at my furrows of worry, look at my big bank account, and my family. This has to be real.” It’s just a ride. But we always kill the good guys who try and tell us that, you ever notice that? And let the demons run amok … But it doesn’t matter, because it’s just a ride. And we can change it any time we want. It’s only a choice. No effort, no work, no job, no savings of money. Just a simple choice, right now, between fear and love. The eyes of fear want you to put bigger locks on your doors, buy guns, close yourself off. The eyes of love instead see all of us as one. Here’s what we can do to change the world, right now, to a better ride. Take all that money we spend on weapons and defenses each year and instead spend it feeding and clothing and educating the poor of the world, which it would pay for many times over, not one human being excluded, and we could explore space, together, both inner and outer, forever, in peace.”
You are far more powerful than you know. Don’t listen to those who tell you otherwise. They speak from a place of fear. Everything is possible when you choose love.
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